Tag Archives: Goals

Better Than Done is out now

by Kelly

Better Than DoneI wrote a book for people like us.

Did I tell you I have been writing a book? Well, at last, it’s done! It’s Better Than Done, actually. My co-author, Geffen Rothe and I are so excited to share this powerful book with you. We would be ecstatic for you to get your hands on a copy of the first paperback print run or the Kindle edition, both now available on Amazon for you..

We wrote Better Than Done together over the course of two years. It is a powerful example of collaboration between colleagues, ultimately rendering us as friends and business partners.

It’s about a new, better way to set goals.

Traditional goal setting is outdated, ineffective and unsatisfying. There is a better way – paying attention to the qualities that are most important to you, every day. Better Than Done teaches you how to focus on your most valued qualities while living an ambitious life. We know this is so much more satisfying than just doing, doing, doing.

Better Than Done is more than a how-to process to achieve meaningful goals. It is a completely new way to approach being ambitious, called Intentional Goal Setting. You’ve heard the phrase “It’s about the journey, not the destination” many times. Well, we wanted to create a guidebook for how to actually do this, without compromising that desire to achieve ambitious, concrete results.

Be the first to get Better Than Done.

Get ahead of the pack and enjoy being one of the very first people to get a copy of my book in your hands. Begin your own journey of setting ambitious goals with sanity, success and satisfaction. Here it is then. Better Than Done. It’s for you. It’s for your friends. It’s for your colleagues. It’s for your children.

Buy it now on Amazon.

I am thrilled to share my book with you. Better Than Done: Sanity, Success and Satisfaction for Ambitious People is available internationally for purchase on Amazon.

Click here to buy Better Than Done in your country.

To your success and satisfaction!

 

Why your New Years Resolutions will end in failure

by Kelly

New Years Resolution Fail

With another New Year upon us are you full of enthusiasm and good intentions for these next 12 months? The New Year is a naturally powerful time to pause and reflect on what you most desire in the coming 12 months. Sadly, a disheartening statistic quoted in the Journal of Clinical Psychology tells us that only 8% of people are successful at achieving their New Years Resolutions. If you’re among the 92% that do not achieve their resolutions you may be telling yourself that its because you’re not disciplined enough, not committed enough or not focused enough.

The real truth is that the New Years Resolution system is broken. New Years Resolutions come from the S.M.A.R.T goal methodology developed in 1981, and that methodology is out of date. The S.M.A.R.T acronym stands for setting goals that are specific, measurable, actionable, realistic and time-bound and this approach has been the staple diet of business and management for the last 30 years. The reason you are failing in your New Years Resolution is that you are using out-dated technology.

I have spent the last few years researching and experimenting with an improved approach to goal setting that ensures my clients, and myself, maintain enthusiasm and momentum while pursuing highly ambitious outcomes. This month I’m thrilled to be launching my first workshop introducing the Intentional Goal Setting System.

The Intentional Goal Setting System flips the S.M.A.R.T goal setting system on its head. Instead of chasing a very 1980’s form of external material success, our new approach to setting goals, tracking progress and defining success is all about being satisfied while pursuing your deepest desires.

The Intentional Goal Setting System invites you to focus on the kind of person you desire to be. Then, instead of focusing exclusively on your end result, you track the tangible, measurable experiences that provide proof that you are being who you want to be. This approach builds a greater sense of satisfaction in day-to-day life and provides you with strong motivation to keep on moving forward.

If you’re ready to make 2015 your most satisfying and successful year yet, then I invite you to be among the first to join me for my Intentional Goal Setting Workshop debut on 10th January.

Whatever your desires for the New Year, may your year be profoundly satisfying and full of joy!

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New Coaching Program

by Kelly

life coaching

Recently, I was working to help a client overcome interview nerves. As our work drew to a close, she reported a wonderful side effect. As well as feeling confident about attending interviews, she was feeling so much more calm and confident in her current role. Tasks that used to stand out as anxiety-inducing events had now settled into the background for her as commonplace normal activities. As a result, she posed this question to me:

“What am I supposed to do with all this extra energy that I used to expend on worrying?”

What a beautiful problem to have! I’ve been considering her question deeply, and now I have an answer…

Hypnotherapy is just wonderful for clearing the blocks, the negative habits and self-defeating beliefs that can make it hard to get through the day. Once we’ve tackled those barriers and reclaimed some mental space, then the real fun begins!

The answer to my client’s questions is to use that liberated energy to begin to create your life consciously. Until now, you may have found yourself living a life that was created by default or as a result of external circumstances. With the biggest energy drains and negative components now under control, you are in the privileged position to identify your dreams and desires and begin bringing them to fruition.

This is where my coaching skill-set comes into play. Coaching is forward-looking and action-oriented. In coaching with me, you have the added reassurance of my arsenal of hypnotic tools and techniques that can be called upon, as needed, to turbo-charge your progress.

Therefore, I am delighted to announce the launch of my personalised 3-month coaching program for hypnotherapy graduates.

The coaching program is specifically designed to support you – from discovering your desires and setting clear goals, to taking joyful action, all the way through to celebrating your successes. The program supports you with nine 45-minute coaching sessions across the 3-month period to keep enthusiasm and motivation strong.

While each coaching program is personalised for your individual needs, in coaching with me you can expect these elements:

  • Naming your desires
  • Achieving your goals
  • Creating a life that you love
  • Experiencing satisfaction in the journey
  • Gaining deeper understanding of yourself through your values
  • Generating greater appreciation of your strengths
  • Tapping into the courage to take action
  • Cultivating motivation through self-recognition and celebration

Here is what some of my coaching graduates have to say:

Kelly is a highly resourceful, fun and deeply committed coach. She has a natural air of confidence and approachable authority which ensured I always had complete faith and trust in her – she was also committed to my own autonomy and had a genuine respect for my own need to reach certain conclusions and come up with ideas myself. As someone with a long history of personal development and my own interest in coaching, my standards are extremely high and I plan to recommend her unreservedly to people who I know may benefit. – Jess, Singer-Songwriter, London

Kelly has been an absolute joy and her guidance has impacted me in unexpected ways. I have seen significant impacts in several of the areas that were targets of ours from our initial sessions. I feel that the coaching has helped peel back layers which at times felt like a setback but in actuality, were moving me and our sessions forward. I have fully trusted Kelly in my times of strife to allow myself to flounder and work out the problems, allowing more of the good bits in life to take over. I am amazed at the process as I did not know what to expect at first and would recommend it to anyone. – Julie, Pilates Instructor, London

You can read more about my coaching offering on my website, where I answer some of the questions that you may have. Alternatively, if this program tickles a glimmer of excitement inside of you, then get in touch and let’s talk. I’m offering a complimentary 30-minute consultation to answer any questions you may have and to explore how my coaching program could help you take your next joyful step in life.

Program Details

To make most efficient use of time, the coaching program is offered via telephone (or Skype, Facetime, Google Hangout). By working the program remotely, you will find it simple to fit our calls into your busy week. A 45-minute call allows you to speak during lunch breaks at work or to find space in your schedule between your business appointments.

Face to face coaching in my London offices is also available upon request.

Program Price

The program cost is £195 per month for 3-months.   Should you wish to purchase the entire program upfront, I offer a full payment price of £550.

In order to deliver exquisite service to my coaching clients, I only have room for 5 coaching clients for this launch. So if you’re ready to get started designing a life that you love, get in touch today for a complimentary 30-minute consultation to get you on the path to living a life that gives you joy.

 

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Make New Year’s changes that stick

by Kelly

The Hierarchy of Change

Happy New Year!  May 2014 be your greatest year yet!

What do you want to achieve in 2014? What would you like to change this year?

To assist you in making those changes permanent and easy, I’d like to introduce you to the Dilts’ model of change.  Robert Dilts is a significant contributor to the field of NLP and stipulated that there was a hierarchy of six different levels where change could be made within a person.  Those levels are: Purpose, Identity, Values & Beliefs, Capability, Behaviour and Environment.

Dilts' Model of ChangePurpose – Whom do I serve and for what purpose?

Identity – Who am I and do I reflect that in the way I live?

Values & Beliefs – Why do I make these changes?

Capability – How do I make these changes?

Behaviour – What do I need to change?

Environment – Where do I need change?

Changes made at one level tend to flow downwards and impact on the levels below.

Typically, when people want to make a change, they target the level of Behaviour.  For example, if someone wants to lose weight, they will target behaviour by changing their exercise regime or their diet.  A change at the behaviour level will filter downwards and impact on their environment as they start going to the gym or avoiding bakeries and fast food outlets.

When changes are made at the higher levels of Purpose, Identity or Values & Beliefs, change filters down into the lower levels and behaviours and environments can change easily.  Consider how you would naturally and automatically behave if:

  • You believed that eating cakes and sugar was causing immediate damage to your health and you valued good health as a high priority.  A change at level of Beliefs & Values
  • You identified yourself as an extremely health-conscious person.  A change at level of Identity
  • Your purpose was to make a huge contribution in your chosen field during your lifetime. Therefore you ensure you are in the best possible physical condition to do so.  A change at level of Purpose

Unless we have taken action to change our values, beliefs and identity, we may well be operating on unconscious programming that was installed during our early years.  By working with the unconscious mind and creating new beliefs, values and an identity that supports our goals and desires in the present, we can make taking action so much easier.

Should you wish for support to make those desired changes in 2014, I am always at your service.

 

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Increase your chances of achieving your goal by 33% with a whisper!

by Kelly

Sharing goals increases achievement

Did you know that by sharing a goal with a friend you are 33% more likely to achieve that goal than by simply thinking about it?

Research by Dr. Gail Matthews at the Dominican University of California tested various scenarios in relation to goal setting: from simply thinking about business-related goals, all the way through to undertaking a full spectrum of accountability activities (writing goals, writing action commitments, sharing those commitments with a friend and providing weekly progress reports to that friend).  She found that those participants that did all of those accountability activities achieved 76% of their goal compared to only 43% for the group that simply thought about their goals.

Back in August I was faced with an obstacle, my business was growing but I was juggling client bookings and inconsistent room availability in my current offices.  So I set a goal to find a modern, friendly and professional clinic to make my home, and then took action to make that a reality.  The exciting news is – I found two!

Hypnotherapy room at Canonbury ClinicI now have a regular clinic on Monday nights in the charming Canonbury Natural Health Clinic at 265 Upper Street, Islington, N1 2UQ.  Clinic hours are from 5pm – 9pm (last appointment is 8pm).  This lovely clinic is a convenient 4-minute walk from Highbury & Islington station, giving easy access from the Victoria Line.  Alternately, it is an enjoyable walk up thriving Upper Street from Angel Station on the Northern Line.

Hypnotherapy room at ClerkenwellbeingOn Thursday evening Clerkenwellbeing at 178 Goswell Road, EC1V 7DT hosts my clinic in Clerkenwell, the creative heart of London. Clinic hours are 4pm – 8pm (last appointment 7pm).  This newly refurbished building, which includes Pilates and Yoga Studios, is 7 minutes walk from Barbican Tube and in easy access of the City.

How are you tracking with your goals?  Are you feeling the desire to set some new ones for the autumn?  As always, I would be delighted to assist you to continue to craft your life into a true expression of how you want it to be.  I invite you to share your goals and commitments in the comments.  Should you wish to book an evening appointment at either of these lovely new locations, please contact me.

Do you know of someone else who would benefit from the work I do?  Send them the link to this article.

Wishing you a wonderful, inspiring, productive autumn season!

 

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